Whether you are dating, married, partnered, separated or divorced there are ways to keep your relationship warm!
If you find your significant relationship is not giving you the love you want, start by asking yourself what is missing for you in your life and you alone, separate from your relationship with your partner!
The messages we internalize at various ages/stages of our personal development can often uncover why we find certain relationship patterns in our life. It can help to uncover how we relate with our partner, family, friends, or child.
So how do we keep a relationship warm – alive, juicy, exciting, fulfilling?
The good news is we can enliven our relationships at any point in time if we are willing to understand and connect to our feelings, needs & desires. Then we can share that with others in ways that allow them to really see, hear, and feel us. The ability to let go of control and allow others to see the real you makes it possible for them to love and support you. This self- discovery work is the first step to building a dynamic fulfilling relationships.
Coaching can support the capacity to be transparent, expressed and vulnerable so others can find a way to contribute to us. Coaching conversations and practice support another to truly witness with compassion what they feel and experience so they can begin to practice self-care that does not push or pull on others and allows them to fill up their own bucket in their life.
Learning how to give our self the gift of self-love by living fully expressed in all domains of our life (work, family, health, significant relationships, passions, etc.) is taking responsibility for finding our own happiness and fulfillment so we can be fully present to others. Inside of that is the reward of giving and receiving on purpose with the intention of living life together with a shared vision.
If there are differences between you, and you are still attracted to each other, then it is possible to strike a new agreement, re-define the relationship and light each other up again. However, as the cliché goes, “It takes two.” Any breakdown can result in a breakthrough iced with joy, gratitude, and a deeper connection.
Each of us are accountable with learning how we source our experience with our partner. There are okay partnerships, but the BEST relationships are with couples who have taken the time to do individual personal work.
Ask yourself; are you the person you would want to be with? Are you ‘present’ for your partner in every sense of the word?
Are you emotionally available in the way they need you to be?
What does it mean to be responsible within our relationships? “A person who is responsible has the ability to respond.” The relationship is not determined solely by what happens, it is also determined by how we respond to what happens. Making a relationship work is not a mystery. It is not a matter of being lucky!
You have to fully participate in order to create the relationship you desire.
If you need help with your relationship, at the very least sign up for a package of three coaching conversations to redirect your intention and put new action into play. Learning how to stir the soup with new ingredients is the key to spicing up any relationship and your personal fulfillment.
If not now, then when?